What if dating wasn’t something to win at?

Let’s be real—most of us weren’t taught how to date in a healthy way.

We were taught to impress. To chase or be chased.

To show only the parts of ourselves we thought would get us chosen.

And if you’ve ever found yourself wondering why dating feels like a loop you can’t get out of—or why you keep attracting the same kind of person—it’s not because something’s wrong with you. It’s just that most dating advice out there teaches us to perform, not connect.

Conscious dating flips that.
It’s not about playing a role or following rules.
It’s about showing up as yourself—and learning what that actually means in the process.

It means noticing the moments you shut down or pull away. It means getting honest about what you want instead of pretending to be fine with less. It means learning to lead with who you really are instead of trying to be who you think someone wants. And yeah, it can feel uncomfortable at first.

But the truth is, if you want real connection, the kind where you feel seen, respected, and wanted for who you actually are, it starts with dropping the act.

This month I’m sharing real conversations around dating. The kind most people don’t talk about. Whether you’re starting to date again, tired of surface-level situationships, or wanting something that just feels more real—this is for you. And If you are dating, I have something juicy for you coming soon!

Much love and gratitude,

Iryna