You’ve done dating the hard way.
Dating in today’s world can feel confusing.
Swipe culture, mixed signals, overthinking, chasing or being chased, and many conversations that never go anywhere. And then there’s the pressure… to be impressive, to be chill, to have no needs, to read between lines that were never clearly written.
We’ve turned dating into a game. One where everyone’s trying to win… but rarely are we conscious of what we really desire. Dating isn’t about playing hard to get, fixing yourself, or performing to be chosen.
Over the next 30 days, you’ll be guided through a deeply transformational dating experience: one rooted in presence, self-devotion, discernment, and real connection.
This challenge is a reset.
It’s not about tips, tricks, or “how to get the girl.” It’s about showing up as the man you already are — grounded, clear, honest — and building connection from there. No games. No pretending. No formulas.
30 days of daily emails and practical tools that help you come back to yourself, get clear on what you actually want, and move through dating with more confidence and less confusion.
You won’t be asked to perform. You’ll be asked to be present. And in that space, everything shifts.
What’s included?
→ 30 Daily Emails
Short, grounded drops that get straight to the point. Each one invites you to see something clearly, shift something subtly, or show up differently. 5–10 minutes a day that can change how you date, connect, and move through the world.
→ A Private Challenge Portal (Course Access)
All daily prompts, audio practices, and PDFs are stored in one place so you can return to them anytime. Whether you miss a few days or want to revisit your favorite practices, you’ll have 6 months access to it all.
→ Journal Prompts That Cut Through the Noise
These aren’t fluffy questions. They’re designed to bring you into clarity quickly—around what you want, where you’re abandoning yourself, and what’s actually going on underneath the patterns you keep repeating.
→ Audio Practices + Nervous System Tools
Some days include guided meditations or somatic tools to help you regulate before a date, reset after a connection, or just feel more grounded in your body. These aren’t here to “fix” you—they’re here to help you come back to yourself.
→ Real-Life Application
This isn’t theoretical. You’ll get tools for navigating texting, mixed signals, expressing interest, moving through rejection, and checking in with yourself when you feel triggered or unsure. These are things you’ll actually use.
→ A Container You Can Breathe In
There’s no pressure to complete the challenge in 30 perfect days. You’ll have 6 months to access it and the freedom to move through it your way. The goal isn’t to “keep up”—it’s to reconnect, realign, and reset your dating life from the inside out.
TESTIMONIAL
“I went from a dude who did not know how to get a date, didn't know how to really talk to women, to being a man that blows women's minds. I was able to last long and have passionate s/x, most of the time choosing not to release... and hooking up with girls on the first date with them being very receptive and open to it, to dating girls with serious intentions and learning so much about myself and about these sublte dynamics. Everything I didn't do in my young 20s and early teens, I got to experience in these six+ months and it's truly changed my life and elevated me. It was like experiencing 10 years worth of experiences in 6 months. There was also a lot of deep work I did with Iryna. I am on a level where I can embody the man I want to be. A lot of healing took place deep within through working with Iryna. If I did not work with Iryna, I imagine I would still be stunted and wouldn't have made a fraction of the progress.”
💸 Real talk: if you're always spending money on trying to be more desirable, try spending $29 on trusting yourself instead.
What You Can Walk Away With
By the end of 30 days, you may leave with:
A clearer sense of what you want in dating and why
The ability to speak up early without fear of pushing someone away
Tools to navigate rejection, attraction, and confusion with less reactivity
Confidence to stay in your body, in your power, and in your standards
A shift in how you approach connection — from chasing to choosing
A reminder that your needs, boundaries, and desires are valid
Most people are dating from their wounds. Avoiding rejection, chasing validation, repeating patterns they swore they’d never go back to. But when you stop making dating about being chosen — and start making it about truth — everything changes. You get to come home to yourself. And that’s where real connection starts.
THIS IS FOR YOU IF…
You’re tired of performing or playing it cool just to be liked
You’ve been stuck in patterns — pulling away, overthinking, chasing, ghosting
You crave deeper intimacy but don’t want to lose yourself in it
You want to feel more like you in dating again — calm, confident, grounded
You’re done wasting energy on people who can’t meet you where you’re at.
You don’t need to be “more healed” to do this.
You just have to have a desire, deeper awareness of yourself and your vision for partnership, and be ready to stop dating on autopilot.
WHAT THIS CHALLENGE CAN ACTUALLY HELP WITH
Not just mindset shifts — but real-life dating moments like:
Knowing what to say on a date when it gets vulnerable
Recognizing a red flag without ignoring it
Making moves without questioning your worth afterward
Letting someone in — or letting someone go — from a grounded place
You’ll stop chasing people who aren’t available.
You’ll stop ghosting when it gets uncomfortable.
You’ll stop folding just to keep someone around.
And you’ll remember that being yourself is enough.
WHY I CREATED THIS
Because most people are out here dating from fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of being too much. Fear of getting hurt.
And they’re wondering why it doesn’t feel good.
But when you strip away all the noise, what we actually want isn’t complicated: To be seen. To feel safe enough to be ourselves. To be met in the middle — not left hanging.
I made this because I want you to feel that again. Or maybe for the first time.
THE CHALLENGE IN DETAIL
This is a 30-day challenge with four weekly modules. Each module is one week and consists of supporting practices and challenges.
Over the course of 30 days, you’ll receive a daily email and gain access to a private portal filled with practices, journal prompts, audio guidance, and simple tools to help you date in a way that actually feels good.
This isn’t a script to follow or a checklist to memorize—it’s a guided process to come back to your own clarity, confidence, and connection. Some days will be quick mindset shifts or a single question that unlocks something big. Other days will go deeper, inviting you to explore how you respond to vulnerability, attraction, rejection, or connection.
There’s no pressure to do this perfectly, and no timeline you have to keep up with. You can move at your own pace, revisit anything you need, and trust that each practice is building something bigger beneath the surface.
Whether you’re currently dating, newly single, or just wanting to reset your patterns, this is about learning to trust yourself in the moments that matter—before the date, during the tension, after the mixed signal. You’ll learn to move from grounded choice instead of confusion, to speak up earlier, to walk away cleaner, and to feel more like yourself in the process.
Click on each tab for module details.
Module 1 | Coming Home to Yourself
Reconnect to your body, your clarity, and your truth. You’ll get honest about what you’ve been tolerating, unlearn the noise of dating culture, and start rebuilding from a place that feels real. This week is about slowing down enough to hear yourself again.
Module 2 | Confidence, Attraction, and Alignment
This week helps you shift from “am I enough?” into “is this aligned?” You’ll explore how to date with presence instead of pressure, what actually feels good in your body, and how to let attraction flow without chasing or shutting down.
Module 3 | Communication, Boundaries, and Truth
Here’s where it gets practical. You’ll practice speaking up earlier, expressing interest without fear, setting boundaries without guilt, and navigating those in-between moments—when you’re not sure what you’re feeling or what they’re thinking.
Module 4 | Discernment, Intimacy, and Integration
You’ll learn how to recognize red flags and green lights, how to stay with yourself in moments of intimacy, and how to date from grounded discernment instead of anxious guessing. This week ties it all together and gives you the tools to keep going beyond the 30 days—with more ease, more self-respect, and way less noise.
MEET YOUR SEXUALITY AND INTIMACY COACH
Iryna Sulim
In the modern society we live in, with an awareness of the “divine feminine” rising and awakening, there is also an urgent need for redefining true masculinity and what it means to be a man.
My innate curiosity for the depth of a human soul, my personal spiritual and sexual healing journey through Tantra, and trustworthy relationships with the men in my life led me to my true calling: helping men to connect back to their authentic selves, their freedom, consciousness and power through healing their sexuality.
Having studied various energy healing modalities, tantric yoga and dominance/submission (D/S) with known leaders in the field like Chris Bale, Sasha Cobra, Lynda Caesara, Layla Martin, Charles Muir (Tantra Yoga) and Om Rupani (D/S), I have spent over six years learning about male sexuality and helping more than a hundred men identify their true desires and needs around sexuality, heal their sexual wounding, and become the best lovers they can be.
I believe I have a true gift for holding a safe and empowering space for men. My mission is to guide men in mastering the tools necessary for a deeper, more powerful, more intimate and more pleasurable relationship to themselves and to their lover.
Let’s be honest: most of us were never shown how to have real, grounded connection. We were taught to chase chemistry, ignore red flags, and abandon our boundaries for the sake of being liked. But now you know better and this is where that knowing becomes something you actually live.
Ready to take back your dating life?
TESTIMONIAL
"My heart is so full! I am overwhelmed with gratitude! It's tough to put into words how thankful I am and how different my life is after working with Iryna.. When we first met, I was dealing with a messy and toxic separation/divorce from an 18 year relationship. I hadn't dated since I was a teenager and had no idea what I was doing.. my confidence was almost non-existent when it came to women and my life felt like it was completely up in the air. I felt sad, confused and desperate. Iryna knew exactly how to talk to me and handle what I was going through with confidence and compassion. Every week when we talked, she assigned me a task.. and every week I saw progress, little by little. Some weeks the progress was massive! To give you an idea.. I started by learning to not be nervous before dates, then how to talk to a woman, then learned to touch a woman for the very 1st time, to then kissing, to touching and kissing more intimately, to getting them to the bedroom, to sensual touching and breathing, to foreplay, to having sex, to becoming a humble, yet ultra- confident force in and out of the bedroom. I've slowly gotten comfortable in all of these areas and know how to take it there successfully basically every time! My dating and sex life has been amazing and will never be the same! I have been sincerely complimented by every woman I've been with on my confidence and sexual abilities! I can still hardly believe it! This confidence and success has also transferred into my day to day life and business as well! I can't thank you, Iryna, enough. There is no price you can put on the results I've experienced and the positive changes in my life. I appreciate you so much. Thank you, Thank you, thank you"
CONSCIOUS DATING CHALLENGE
Your Investment: $29
No monthly fee. No subscriptions. Just one payment.
You get access to everything.
We start June 1!
You’ll get immediate access to your welcome email + portal.
Daily emails begin the morning of June 1, when the challenge kicks off.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
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> Who is this course for?
This is for anyone who’s ready to stop going through the motions and start showing up with more honesty, clarity, and confidence in their dating life. It’s for people who want real connection—not games, not performances, not patterns that leave them feeling drained. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to be willing to look at what’s been running the show... and try a different way.
> Who is this course NOT for?
This isn’t for someone looking for a formula to get attention, manipulate attraction, or avoid doing the inner work. It’s not for people who want to blame everyone else for their dating life and aren’t willing to take a deeper look at themselves. This challenge invites personal responsibility. Not perfection, but presence.
> How much time do I need to dedicate to the practices?
Most days, you’ll need 5–10 minutes. Some days you might spend more time reflecting or revisiting a prompt that hits something deep. But there’s no pressure to do it all “right” or on schedule. This is designed to meet you where you are—and grow with you as you move.
> I don’t usually journal or do meditations. Will this still work for me?
Yes. You don’t need to be “good” at anything to get value from this. The emails are short and direct, the prompts are designed to be clear and impactful, and the audio practices are there to help you reset your energy—not force you into something that doesn’t feel natural.
> Do I have to be actively dating to join this?
Not at all. Whether you're dating now, taking a break, recently out of something, or just wanting to explore how you relate to connection and intimacy—this challenge will meet you where you are. It’s about how you show up in dating, not about how often you’re going on dates.
> What if I fall behind or miss a few days?
No problem. You’ll have a 6 months access to everything in a private portal, so you can revisit the challenge at your own pace. There’s no pressure to finish on a timeline. This isn’t about keeping up—it’s about coming back.
> Is this only for men?
No, this challenge is open to anyone. But most of my community—and the tone of the challenge—is shaped around the patterns, questions, and relational struggles that many men experience in dating. If that speaks to you, you’re welcome here.
> Will this help me get better at dating apps?
Maybe. But that’s not the point. This isn’t about tricks or tips. It’s about learning how to move through dating with clarity, confidence, and integrity—so whether you’re meeting people online or in real life, you feel good about how you're showing up.
> Do I have to share anything with anyone?
Nope. This challenge is completely self-guided. Everything you write, reflect on, or move through is for you. No group chats. No forced community. Just a clear, solid container for your own growth.
> What happens after I sign up?
You’ll receive a welcome email with everything you need, including access to the private challenge portal. Daily emails begin the morning the challenge starts (June 1), and you’ll also be able to log in to the portal to catch up or revisit anything you’ve missed.
> What is your refund policy?
Due to the nature of this challenge, refunds are not possible. Considering this, I ask you to buy mindfully. Please note that you get a 6 months access upon purchase, so if something comes up that prevents you from participating, you can choose to move through the challenge at a later time.
