How p0rn quietly erodes your confidence (and your relationship)🔥
Let’s talk about p0rn.
Is using p0rn cheating on your partner?
My answer: it depends.
If p0rn is being used as an escape, as a replacement for true intimacy with your partner, or as a way to avoid feeling her emotions or your own, then energetically, yes. It’s cheating. Because it takes from her. It takes from you. It takes from the relationship you say you want.
Let’s be honest: P0rn is easier. No rejection. No effort. No raw vulnerability. And many women aren’t “crazy” or “too emotional” when they throw a fit about their partners using p0rn. They feel the betrayal in their bodies. They feel the disconnection.
Now, am I saying that occasional p0rn (used honestly, openly, and with mutual consent to spice things up) is a problem? No. Not at all. I don’t think occasional, conscious use is a big deal.
But if you’re using it as an escape mechanism… If you’re numbing yourself out instead of feeling big, challenging emotions… If you’re avoiding the depth your wife or partner longs for… ⚠️ Think about what your intimacy will look like in 3, 5, 10 years.
I can tell you what I’ve seen: A body so desensitized that real connection feels dull. Performance anxiety creeping in. Erectile dysfunction. A partner who feels unseen, unfelt, unloved. A relationship quietly eroding while you tell yourself, “it’s no big deal, everyone uses it.”
I have witnessed too many men on this path. Good men. Loving men. Men who knew in their hearts that p0rn was toxic but ignored that knowing because… well, it’s common, right?
And then years later they’re sitting across from me in pain, asking how to feel again. How to touch again. How to connect again.
So let this be your warning. If you already know you’re abusing p0rn, if you already feel the hollow space it’s carving in your relationship… please don’t wait.
This is why I’ve created my 6‑month 1:1 Deep Dive coaching journey for men. Not just to help you stop doing something, but to help you become the kind of man who feels alive again. A man who is present in his own body. A man whose touch is electric because he’s actually there.
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With devotion,
Iryna