WANT BETTER SEX? LEARN TO TALK ABOUT SEX.
Hey handsome,
Oh wow, I have had such deep, open-hearted conversations with many of you these past several months! I’m blown away by how many men are curious to engage with me as a sex coach, seeking help in an area that is so vulnerable for men.
I am profoundly grateful and honored. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your trust and courage.
That is the first step to intimacy. It starts with your trust and your courage.
I’ve also observed something and want to share the valuable lesson in it with you.
Following these initial conversations (free 30 min connection calls), many of the men, while telling me on the call that they wanted to go deeper and do "the work" following the session, simply disappeared. In dating, this is called ghosting. :)
But this isn’t uncommon.
Here’s what happens after you take the first step towards something new and vulnerable with trust and courage: Your natural fear response kicks in.
On the surface, your mind talks you out of making a shift in your life where you most need one. Deep down, you experience a contraction.
When you talk to someone about your deepest secrets, something you've never shared with anyone in your life, something you feel shame about, your body starts to experience unpleasant sensations, and you want to hide. You want to disappear; you feel anxious, sweating, maybe even nauseous and repelled. It’s a high-sensation experience.
That same high-sensation experience might happen for you when you talk about sex with your lover for the very first time.
Most likely, this is shame or guilt, and it makes its grand appearance when you finally allow yourself to feel it. It’s so uncomfortable that you want to hide, run away, or die after you plucked up the courage to talk. That's why many of the men didn't come back to me after the initial talk where they showed me their vulnerable side.
Trying new things, talking about something that is so damn scary and so vulnerable, where the feeling of rejection always haunts us, is terrifying for all of us on some level.
It is normal to feel this fear, shame, and guilt. But what is not normal is living your whole life with it, never daring to make a brave move towards what your heart yearns for - deeper intimacy and connection with your beloved.
So I'd like to challenge you to come forward and say to your beloved what you have always wanted to say, to invite her into a new conversation, to reveal your most sacred desires and ask what hers are.
Because when we TALK about sex and intimacy and our desires, we HAVE better sex.
And, of course, if you need and want support, I am available for you. Talking with a professional about these edgy topics can serve as a training ground before you open up with your beloved.
Here is how you can work with me:
1. The best way to work with me is through 1:1 online coaching. The options I offer are three introductory coaching sessions, a six-month program, and a one-year program. If you are curious about any of the above, you MUST book a consultation with me, which is FREE!
2. In-person VIP days in California! These experiences are only available for my existing or former clients who have done paid online coaching programs with me. Send me an email/inquiry if this sparks your curiosity.
3. I am preparing two unique and very affordable offers for you that I will be launching soon. Stay tuned! More info will be dropped in my newsletters, so make sure to sign up.
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna