THIS IS WHAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK FROM THE EPIC INTIMACY YOU CRAVE
Hey handsome,
I’m so excited to share this insight with you from a recent incredibly revealing and transformative session with my client.
We did a process around his inner child. Most of you are familiar with this psychological reference (originating with Carl Jung) to the younger part of us that lives inside of us, alongside the other fifty+ identities we have created throughout life.
When we go through life and never self-reflect, we may not be aware of all these parts. So in my sessions, I help my clients deepen into different parts of themselves which may be holding them back.
One of them is the inner child: A little boy who has accumulated certain beliefs about himself that can be very strong and carry shame, fear, or guilt (along with all the joy and happiness, of course).
When it comes to their sex life, the majority of men are still unconsciously guided by the beliefs and emotions that originated in childhood. They don’t make sense to their adult mind anymore, yet, we bow to them as they live in our bodies.
How does this manifest in your sex life? It might show up in your performance anxiety, your fast thrusting, your premature ejaculation because you can't bear the intensity of the sensation. Perhaps also because of an internalized shame that sex is dirty, and so the faster you do it, the sooner it will all end.
If you slow down, you may not be able to hold the erection because, again - this is all very intense, and the younger part of you who remembers your first experiences of sex, and the messages of guilt and shame that live in the body, can't take it.
How do you overcome this?
In my session with my clients, we allow the little boy to come out and share and reveal what this is like for him, how he relates to sex, to intimacy, and the whole relationship shenanigans. It’s a lot for a 7-year-old or 12-year-old to hold! And he shouldn't. This is not his domain. All he wants to do is play and be loved, heard, and understood. That is where you, as an adult mature man, come into the picture holding your little guy, setting boundaries with him not to interfere in adult matters (sex), and lovingly sending him to play.
If you go even deeper, you find the part in you that knows how to show up in sex, love, and relationship in a powerful, mature, confident, and responsible way. Your inner confident man, your Sex God, or Divine Masculine, or however you prefer to identify him.
This is the part that you evoke when you are about to have a serious conversation with your partner; this is the part you put forward when you are triggered by something your partner said, and deep down inside, you know she said it because she is hurting; this is the part that comes out on dates and during sex. This part of you holds a strong masculine core, loving heart, and unpenetrable consciousness.
I want to invite you to really investigate within yourself these two vital parts of your identity - your inner child and your Divine Masculine - and to spend some time talking to them. Perhaps journaling what grievances your inner child has and what qualities and characteristics you want your Divine Masculine to have.
Next time you make love to your woman, notice the energy between you two, in your intimacy as a whole. Then notice how she responds to you when you show up as the Divine Masculine when you fuck and love her as this man.
And, of course, if you need support and my guidance, I offer 1:1 coaching with me for six months and a one-year-long journey. Book a FREE 30 min connection call with me to learn more and see if we are aligned to work together.
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Much love and gratitude,
Iryna