Your energy walks in before you do.

You ever walk into a date already on edge? Already analyzing? Already hoping it’s finally going to be the one that feels different?

Maybe they haven’t even shown up yet and you’re already in your head. Already scripting how things might go. Already trying to figure out if you’re being too much…or not enough.

That energy? People feel it. Even if they don’t know how to name it.

The truth is, the energy you carry into dating spaces says more than the words you use or the outfit you wear. You don’t have to say “I’m anxious” or “I need this to work” for someone to pick up on it. It lives in your pace. Your presence. The way you breathe. The way you listen—or don’t. The way you leave yourself the moment you start hoping someone else will make you feel okay.

We all carry something into dating. A tone. A signal. A question we want answered. And if we’re not aware of it, that energy tends to shape the entire experience.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting connection. But when your energy is coming from fear, pressure, or desperation—it often repels the very thing you’re hoping to invite in.

Grounded energy feels different. It’s not passive. It’s just clear. It’s the energy of someone who knows they’re okay either way. Who’s not pretending to be casual when they actually want depth. Who isn’t performing, but actually showing up.

You don’t have to be perfectly healed or totally confident to date from that place. You just have to be aware of your energy—and willing to shift it when it’s off.

This week, I want you to get curious. What energy are you bringing into your dating spaces? What’s underneath it? And is it truly aligned with what you want to attract?

You can’t fake groundedness. But you can practice it. It’s not about forcing confidence or pretending to be calm. It’s about getting back into your body before you show up.

Here are a few ways I guide clients (and myself) into that grounded state:

Pause before you enter the space. Whether it’s a restaurant, a phone call, or a dating app—take one full breath in through your nose, slow exhale through your mouth. Feel your feet. Drop into your body.

Let go of “how it should go.” You don’t need to know if they’re the one. You don’t need to impress. What if your only job was to be present?

Set an intention that’s just for you. Something like: “I stay connected to myself, no matter what.” Or “I’m open, but I’m grounded.” Let it anchor you.

Move your body beforehand. Walk. Stretch. Shake it out. Get out of your head before you go in.

These are small shifts, but they change everything. You’ll feel it. And the people you’re meeting will feel it too.

Because when you show up grounded, you’re not trying to get anything out of the experience. You’re just being real. And that energy? It’s magnetic.

And if you’re ready to explore more of that—more presence, more clarity, more confidence in how you move through dating—something is coming soon that’s built for exactly this.

Can’t share the details yet. But it’s close.

You’ll be the first to know when it drops.

Much love and gratitude,

Iryna