If you’ve experienced performance anxiety, read this
If you’re already inside the 30-Day Conscious Dating Challenge, I’m celebrating you.
You’re doing something most men never dare to. And if you’re thinking about joining...this might be the message you need to hear.
Let’s talk about something real:
Performance anxiety.
Not just in the bedroom, but in the early stages of dating, when everything is new. You’re curious. You’re excited. You feel chemistry.
And you want to get it right.
That’s when anxiety shows up. It lives in the tension between what you feel… and what you think you're supposed to do.
Here’s what I want you to know:
The pressure isn’t coming from the woman in front of you. It’s coming from your mind. From outdated ideas about how to win her over, instead of connecting with her. From performing... instead of being present.
Here’s the shift:
Slow. Everything. Down.
If you move too fast—physically or emotionally—you short-circuit your nervous system. You leave your body. You disconnect from your power. But when you slow down, breathe, and stay rooted in yourself, you create the exact thing your body (and hers) is longing for: safety, openness. presence.
What I teach the men I work with is this:
Before you even touch her sexually, create a moment of grounded intimacy. Hold her hands. Look her in the eyes. Take a deep breath.
And say something like: “I’m really enjoying this with you.”
“What kind of touch feels good for you to receive?”
“What turns you on emotionally, not just physically?”
“I want to be able to attune to you in a way that feels good for both of us.”
Yes, it’s that simple.
Yes, you can say that.
And as a woman, let me tell you…
That kind of initiation?
💥 It’s magnetic,
💥 It’s empowering
💥 It melts the pressure for both of you.
This is what we practice inside the 30-Day Conscious Dating Challenge.
It’s $29.
30 days.
We Start June 1.
Less than a week left to join!
And it will change the way you show up—not just in dating, but in who you are as a man in connection.
One email a day.
One practice at a time.
Real, embodied growth—not quick fixes.
You ready?
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna