The roadmap to understanding your woman
I have a client who's been tracking his wife's cycle for 10 years after she gave birth to their second child.
And it literally saved his intimacy and his relationship.
No one teaches us, women and men, about what it feels like, on emotional, physical, and spiritual levels, for a woman to go through her menstrual cycle each month.
Only in the last five years has Cosmopolitan started writing about menstruation. And the topic has become not so taboo to talk about. Luckily, slowly but surely, menstrual cycle awareness is increasing in the psyches of women and society overall.
We now have a number of applications that are designed to track a cycle. If you do not have one for your partner, I highly recommend downloading one.
What am I leading to here?
I would like to share with you something really valuable that won't only help you to understand your female partner better emotionally and energetically but will offer you more insight on:
what's the best time to engage with your woman s/xually,
when to ask for your needs to be met,
when to bring up challenging relationship decisions,
when to be most supportive and helpful,
and when to give her space to be alone.
All you need to do is to track her cycle... and know this:
Did you know that your woman goes through 4 inner seasons in a month in her cycle? Yes, there is winter, spring, summer, and autumn we women go through in one month. She might not even know this herself. But it is literally what happens.
I took this information from the book Wild Power written by A. Pope & S. Wurlitzer. It is a brilliant book, and I highly recommend it. It helped me tremendously to navigate my cycle.
Note, each woman's experience is unique to her. That's why tracking is so important and noticing what she is going through during each season is paramount. (Her diet, her stress level, her health, kids or no kids — all these variables also matter.)
Also, here I describe the inner seasons map, most of which is based on my own example.
Winter
when she is bleeding (approx. day 27–day 5)
Time of introspection. She is going inwards. A time of deep rest and doing nothing. Self-care is crucial in this season. Ideally, no kids around. She needs space. Offering help, taking over a load of household chores, massaging her feet, asking if there is anything you can do to help is great during this time. Even if she would be action-oriented, I recommend you take over the mundane things. It's the time for her needs to be met. Making love is not an option unless she'll ask for it.
Spring
approx. day 6 to day 11
Rebirth. More energy is emerging. She is still very vulnerable though. It is a time of hope, time of experimenting, and taking more risks. She wants to be social. She wants you to tell her compliments, as she is finding herself more attractive. She will be full of ideas and would want to do something new. Offer to take her out on a date, surprise her with a gift. Be heart-centered, as it is the time of romanticizing her and playing.
Summer
when she is ovulating (approx. day 12–day 19)
Peak of energy. She is going outwards. She is focusing on mothering and taking care of others. And she is showing up fully in her work also. Her needs don't matter that much. She feels like a superwoman conquering the world. She'll want to have s/x every day, all day with you and experiment in the wildest of ways. This is the time for you to ask to have your needs met. This is the time for you to bring up something that is important for you to discuss. She is the sweetest and loveliest towards you. She will shower you with love, give you massages, bl0w jobs, and a delicious dinner.
Autumn
approx. day 20 to day 26
Her energy level drops. She all of a sudden feels sad, or not good about herself. Her inner critic starts to run the show. She starts getting introspective. This is a very intuitive time for a woman. She might have visions and deep insights. It's time for you to listen to her. And never take things personally. Because she will say some not very nice things about you. She might even be repelled and annoyed by you (it all depends on how good you were in other seasons). She just has a very low tolerance for bullshit. She'll seem to you like not making any sense. Your jokes won't be funny, and she'll cry if you, God forbid, say something insensitive. She's entering cosmic realms, and her consciousness is called to serve something greater than the physical. She might be deeply poetic and creative. Ask her if she needs support, listening, or leaving her alone. She might not be sure of any of that, but ask anyway. S/x might be amazing here, especially right before entering into winter, as it can be very healing for her.
And voila!
Now you have a road map to your woman's emotional, s/xual, and spiritual world.
Isn't it what all men want? To understand a woman?
Menstrual cycle awareness, in my humble opinion, is a missing key.
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With devotion,
Iryna