Before your next date, try this
We all experience anxiety and nervousness around dating. So I wanted to offer you a short practice—it's an awareness practice, that you could do before your date.
When you are getting ready for your date, the first thing that I would highly recommend to do is to set an intention: “Who am I showing up as on a date?” Think of the answer to this question and let this man “show up” when you are on a date.
The second recommendation, I highly suggest is to slow everything down. Slowness is key. Slowness helps you to feel yourself and notice the other person more.
Through slowness, you attain presence.
And as you know your presence makes you irresistibly attractive to your date. You’re 100% listening—with your whole body.
When you notice you are getting too ahead of yourself, overthinking, or too anxious, speaking too fast, over-explaining yourself, maybe moving or jittery—take a deep breath, slow down, notice your feet rooted into the ground, notice your sit bones on the chair if you are sitting, and take a pause.
Pauses are not awkward. They are necessary to recalibrate and retune to your body.
Notice your surroundings.
Notice the smells in the room.
Notice the sounds in the room.
Notice the woman in front of you.
Feel the appreciation for her.
If you will begin incorporating this little awareness practice, you will start noticing how good you feel around this woman—and how good she will feel around you.
Because when you become more present, calm, and at peace with what is, she will reflect that back to you. Your presence will stabilize the whole situation and dynamic.
So don’t think about what to say or how you’re going to make an impression on her—think about where your body is, and how you can activate it into presence.
If this lands for you—this is just one of the many practices inside the 30-day conscious dating challenge.
This challenge is not about being better at dating. It’s about being better at being with yourself—so you stop getting pulled into dynamics that disconnect you from your truth.
For 30 days, I’ll guide you through a simple, grounded reset. Each day, you’ll get a short, powerful email. Some days it’s a prompt. Some days it’s a practice. Some days it’s just a reflection that lands like a gut punch and shifts something you didn’t know needed to move.
You’ll have access to a private portal where it all lives, so you can come back anytime. No pressure to be perfect. No deadline to finish. Just one quiet, consistent space that helps you show up differently—for yourself and for the kind of love you actually want.
This isn’t about games. It’s about truth. The kind that makes you magnetic. The kind that makes you safe in your own skin. The kind that lets you stop auditioning, and start choosing.
You don’t need to change yourself to be chosen. But you might need to change the way you’ve been showing up for you. You ready?
It’s $29.
30 days.
We Start June 1.
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna