The list you actually need
You’ve probably made the list before. Of all the attributes you want in a future partner—how they look, how they show up, what they value, what they’ll do differently than the last one.
Most dating coaches, therapists, and self-development books will tell you to make one. And there’s nothing wrong with that. I’ve done it too, more than once.
But here’s what I want to invite you into:
Let’s let go of that list for a moment.
And instead, focus on yourself—as the partner.
What do you bring to the table? What qualities, values, strengths, and energies do you offer in connection? What makes you an incredible partner to be in relationship with?
This shift changes everything. Because when you stop centering the fantasy of who they should be and start honoring who you already are…You date differently. You feel differently.
The Practice:
Make a list of 10–20 attributes that make you a high-quality partner.
Include it all—your emotional intelligence, your depth, your humor, your physicality, your creativity, your loyalty, your sensitivity, your leadership, your spirituality.
Nothing is off limits here. Write it down in your phone or on paper.
And every day until we start our challenge, read that list. Remind yourself of what you’re bringing.
This is one of the ways we start dating from embodiment—not from fantasy. And if you want to go deeper into this kind of inner reset...I'd love you to join me for my 30-day conscious dating challenge.
And it’s not about being better at dating. It’s about being better at being with yourself—so you stop getting pulled into dynamics that disconnect you from your truth.
For 30 days, I’ll guide you through a simple, grounded reset. Each day, you’ll get a short, powerful email. Some days it’s a prompt. Some days it’s a practice. Some days it’s just a reflection that lands like a gut punch and shifts something you didn’t know needed to move.
You’ll have access to a private portal where it all lives, so you can come back anytime. No pressure to be perfect. No deadline to finish. Just one quiet, consistent space that helps you show up differently—for yourself and for the kind of love you actually want.
This isn’t about games. It’s about truth. The kind that makes you magnetic. The kind that makes you safe in your own skin. The kind that lets you stop auditioning, and start choosing.
You don’t need to change yourself to be chosen. But you might need to change the way you’ve been showing up for you. You ready?
It’s $29.
30 days.
We Start June 1.
Much love and gratitude,
Iryna